When we play the Blame Game we are trying to make someone else guilty in the hope that we will remain innocent. However, the blame, and hence the guilt, we are projecting onto others comes from our illusion of ourselves.
The illusion of an autonomous independent self comes from the idea that we can be and are separate. Having accepted this as true we feel justified sitting in judgment of each other.
The problem with most accusations is that the investigation, the hearing, the judge and jury are bypassed in the assumption of guilt.
Having lived all my life in the Blame Game and its consequent "Guilt Trip" I found it very hard to accept the simple lessons of A Course In Miracles:
"As we do to each other we do to ourselves."
"We are all Innocent"
And because I found it so hard to accept I've added lots of quotations (without the quotation marks). These have been slightly edited to change "I mine you and yours" into us and ours. I declined the temptation to edit the words God, Father, Son of God, Christ. God's Final Judgment has already been delivered to us. All we have to do is accept it.
This is God's Final Judgment: "You are still My holy Son, forever innocent, forever loving and forever loved, as limitless as your Creator, and completely changeless and forever pure. Therefore awaken and return to Me. I am your Father and you are My Son."
Our innocence protects us from all harm. Our innocence ensures us perfect peace, eternal safety, everlasting love, freedom forever from all thought of loss; complete deliverance from suffering. And only happiness can be our state, for only happiness is given us.
What must we do to know all this is ours? We must accept that we are all One, and nothing more. God has already done all things that need be done. And we must learn we need do nothing, for we need but accept our Self, our innocence, created for us, now already ours, to feel God's Love protecting us from harm, to understand our Father loves His Son; to know we are the Son our Father loves. God Who created us in innocence is not mistaken about what we are. We were mistaken when we thought we sinned, but we accept that we are One with God and with each other.
The self we made is not the Son of God. Therefore, this self does not exist at all. And anything it seems to do and think means nothing. It is neither bad nor good. It is unreal, and nothing more than that. It does not battle with the Son of God. It does not hurt him, nor attack his peace. It has not changed creation, nor reduced eternal innocence to sin, and love to hate. What power can this self we made possess, when it would contradict the Will of God?
Our innocence is guaranteed by God. Over and over this must be repeated, until it is accepted. It is true. Our innocence is guaranteed by God. Nothing can touch it, or change what God created as eternal. The self we made, evil and full of sin, is meaningless. Our innocence is guaranteed by God, and light and joy and peace abide in us.
True light is strength, and strength is innocence. If we remain as God created us, we must be strong and light must be in us. God Who ensured our innocence must be the guarantee of strength and light as well. We are as God created us. Darkness cannot obscure the glory of God's Son. We stand in light, strong in the innocence in which we were created, and in which we will remain throughout eternity.
Give me your blessing, holy Son of God.
I would behold you with the eyes of Christ,
and see my perfect innocence in you.
Remove our focus on our brother's sins, and we experience the peace that comes from faith in innocence. This faith receives its only sure support from what we see in others past their sins. For their mistakes, if focused on, are witnesses to our guilt. And we will not transcend their sight and see the innocence that lies beyond.
We first let all such little focuses give way to our great need to let our innocence become apparent. We instruct our minds that it is this we seek, and only this, for just a little while. We do not care about our future goals. And what we saw an instant previous has no concern for us within this interval of time wherein we practice changing our intent. We seek for innocence and nothing else. We seek for it with no concern but now.
The world which once proclaimed our guilt becomes the proof that we are innocent. And our love for everyone we look upon attests to our remembrance of the holy Self which knows no guilt, and never could conceive of anything without Its innocence. We seek for this remembrance as we turn our minds to practicing today. We look neither ahead nor backwards. We look straight into the present. And we give our trust to the experience we ask for now. Our innocence is but the Will of God. This instant is our willing one with His.
Our Father, let us see the face of Christ instead of our mistakes. For we who are Your holy Son are innocent. We would look upon our innocence, for guilt proclaims that we are not Your Son.
And we need but remember that God's Love surrounds His Son and keeps our innocence forever perfect, to be sure that we are saved and safe forever in His Arms. We are the Son He loves. And we are saved because God in His mercy wills it so.
Father, Your Holiness is ours. Your Love created us, and made our innocence forever part of You. We have no guilt in us, for there is none in You.
Father, there is a vision which beholds all things as innocent, so that fear has gone, and where it was is love invited in. And love will come wherever it is asked. This vision is Your gift. The eyes of Christ look on a world forgiven. In His sight are all its sins forgiven, for He sees no sin in anything He looks upon. Now let His true perception come to us, that we may waken from the dream of sin and look within upon our innocence, which You have kept completely undefiled upon the altar to Your holy Son, the Self with which we would identify.
Forgiveness is a choice. We never see our brother as he is, for that is far beyond perception. What we see in him is merely what we wish to see, because it stands for what we want to be the truth. It is to this alone that we respond, however much we seem to be impelled by outside happenings. We choose to see what we would look upon, and this we see, and only this. Our brother's innocence shows us that we would look upon our own. And we will see it, having chosen to behold our brother in its holy light.
What could restore Your memory to us, except to see our brother's innocence? His holiness reminds us that he was created one with us, and like ourself. In him we find our Self, and in Your Son we find the memory of You as well.
Who is our brother but Your holy Son? And if we see him guilty we proclaim ourself guilty, not a Son of God; alone and friendless in a fearful world. Yet this perception is a choice we make, and can relinquish. We can also see our brother sinless, as Your holy Son. And with this choice we see our innocence, our everlasting Comforter and Friend beside us, and our way secure and clear. Choose, then, for us, our Father, through Your Voice. For He alone gives judgment in Your Name.
No one can escape God's Final Judgment. Who could flee forever from the truth? But the Final Judgment will not come until it is no longer associated with fear. One day each of us will welcome it, and on that very day it will be given us. We will hear our innocence proclaimed around and around the world, setting it free as God's Final Judgment on us is received. This is the Judgment in which salvation lies. This is the Judgment that will set us free. This is the Judgment in which all things are freed with us. Time pauses as eternity comes near, and silence lies across the world that everyone may hear this Judgment of the Son of God:
Holy are you, eternal, free and whole,
at peace forever in the Heart of God.
Where is the world, and where is sorrow now?
Is this our judgment on ourself, teacher of God? Do we believe that this is wholly true? No; not yet, not yet. But this is still our goal; why we are here. It is our function to prepare ourself to hear this Judgment and to recognize that it is true. One instant of complete belief in this, and we will go beyond belief to Certainty. One instant out of time can bring time's end. Judge not, for we but judge ourself, and thus delay this Final Judgment. What is our judgment of the world, teacher of God? Have we yet learned to stand aside and hear the Voice of Judgment in ourself? Or do we still attempt to take His role from Him? Learn to be quiet, for His Voice is heard in stillness. And His Judgment comes to all who stand aside in quiet listening, and wait for Him.
We who are sometimes sad and sometimes angry; who sometimes feel our just due is not given us, and our best efforts meet with lack of appreciation and even contempt; give up these foolish thoughts! They are too small and meaningless to occupy our holy mind an instant longer. God's Judgment waits for us to set us free. What can the world hold out to us, regardless of our judgments on its gifts, that we would rather have? We will be judged, and judged in fairness and in honesty. There is no deceit in God. His promises are sure. Only remember that. His promises have guaranteed His Judgment, and His alone, will be accepted in the end. It is our function to make that end be soon. It is our function to hold it to our heart, and offer it to all the world to keep it safe.